This is the stuff of nightmares…literally! Bad dreams about your worst wedding fears are all too common when you’re spending what feels like every waking minute contacting suppliers and coordinating seating plans. The good news is, you can do something about it! Here are ten wedding worries that can keep you up at night and our tips for putting them to bed for good.
1. You’ve made the wrong decision.
It’s easy to start second guessing when you discover another wedding idea you love after you’ve committed to something else.
How to deal: If you waited until you’d seen every option out there, you’d never make it down the aisle! Stop shopping once you’ve signed on the dotted line to save yourself those unproductive pangs of regret.
2. You’ve forgotten something important.
With so many details to keep track of, random bouts of anxiety can strike at any time.
How to deal: Keep a notebook and pen by your bed for any moments of panic past midnight. Writing your thoughts down will help you relax knowing you can return to them in the morning. And remember you’re not alone! Your suppliers, partner and loved ones are there to help make sure you’ve got everything covered.
3. Bad weather will ruin your plans.
We’ve all been there before an outdoor event, constantly refreshing the forecast and praying to the rain gods for a break in the clouds…
How to deal: Prepare a Plan B in case the weather doesn’t cooperate and have photo-friendly umbrellas on hand for shade or shelter. If you have your backups sorted, you can switch that radar off and enjoy the lead up to your day.
4. People won’t show up.
Guests, vendors, even your partner! Sometimes fears are totally irrational, but that doesn’t stop them playing on your mind.
How to deal: If you’ve confirmed RSVPs with your guests and final details with your suppliers in the last weeks before the wedding, your job is done!
5. A guest will wear something inappropriate.
For some, this is their ultimate fear – one of their guests upstaging them in a white outfit of their own! Or, you know, Uncle Ben turning up in shorts to your elegant cocktail party. Whether it’s black tie or beach chic, you want to make sure everyone is on the same page about what to wear.
How to deal: Include a dress code on your invitations, and then let go of what’s beyond your control. Everyone is there to celebrate with you and no outfit can distract from that!
6. Someone will cause a scene.
Family drama flaring up or a guest going rogue after too many drinks spells wedding day disaster.
How to deal: Come up with the best plan you can and try not to get caught up in any issues on the day. Ask someone familiar with the situation to keep an eye on things and step in before anything gets out of hand.
7. You’ll embarrass yourself in front of everyone.
Whether you’re worried about tripping down the aisle, crying during your vows or forgetting your first dance, it’s natural to feel nervous when all eyes are on you.
How to deal: If something does happen, take a moment to collect yourself and try to laugh it off! That awkward moment often ends up being a funny memory.
8. Your guests won’t enjoy themselves.
It can be tempting to plan every minute of your event to ensure there’s never a dull moment for your guests.
How to deal: Don’t underestimate how much your family and friends will enjoy good conversation over delicious food and drinks! There’s no need to stuff your wedding full of activities to keep them entertained, just organise what you know you’ll enjoy.
9. You won’t look your best.
You can feel a lot of pressure in the wedding countdown to transform the way you look through weight loss, beauty treatments or undergarments that suck the life out of you!
How to deal: Remember that your partner is marrying you because they love you just the way you are, so there’s no need to make a big change unless you want to. Up your confidence with hair and makeup trials, garment fittings and a couple shoot with your photographer.
10. Things won’t turn out the way you expected.
It can be a long wait until your wedding day to see the results of all your hard work!
How to deal: Remind yourself that you’ve booked all of your suppliers for a reason. Trust them to deliver the beautiful work you fell in love with when you first looked through their portfolio. And in the end, any hiccups on the day are minor compared to the feeling of being married to the one you love!