The last wedding invitation has been sent and now you can sit back and watch the RSVP’s roll in…right? Sometimes it’s not that simple!
Confirming the final guest list is right up there as one of the most challenging parts of wedding planning, whether it’s chasing replies or navigating tricky requests. Here’s how you wish you could respond (and how to actually respond) to the 10 most awkward wedding RSVP conversations!
1. “I haven’t received my invitation yet. When can I expect it?”
What you wish you could say: “Is there a nice way to tell you that you’re not on the guest list?”
What you say instead: “I’m sorry but we haven’t been able to invite everyone we would like to.”
2. “Do we have to formally RSVP? You know we’ll be there.”
What you wish you could say: “Please just follow the instructions on the invitation.”
What you say instead: “That’s great! Let me just make a note of your numbers and catering preferences.”
3. “Aunt Evelyn was supposed to let you know we’re attending!”
What you wish you could say: “That’s a very complicated way to RSVP.”
What you say instead: “I didn’t get the message, sorry! It’s great you can make it, can you just confirm how many are coming and if you have any dietary requirements?”
4. “We’ll try to be there.”
What you wish you could say: “I’ll try not to be annoyed by that reply.”
What you say instead: “No problem, we’ll just need a solid answer by this date for catering purposes, otherwise I won’t be able to hold a place for you.”
5. “Save two seats for me! I’m bringing my new partner.”
What you wish you could say: “There was no section on that RSVP for adding random strangers!”
What you say instead: “We’re so glad you can make it to the wedding, but unfortunately we don’t have the space to add a plus one.”
6. “My partner can’t attend, so I’ll just bring someone else.”
What you wish you could say: “Yeah, you can’t just substitute guests.”
What you say instead: “I’m so glad you can make it. There are a few people we’d still love to invite so we won’t be able to add your guest at this stage, but I’ll let you know if an extra place becomes available. Either way, we’ll seat you with someone you know.”
7. “Can I bring a friend?”
What you wish you could say: “No, our wedding isn’t a spectator sport.”
What you say instead: “Unfortunately we’re unable to add a plus one due to tight numbers, but don’t worry, there will be other guests you’ll know!”
8. “Can we bring our kids?”
What you wish you could say: “That part about it being an adults only wedding wasn’t a typo!”
What you say instead: “We love your little ones but unfortunately we’re unable to cater for all our guests’ children. We understand if you can’t make it, but we’d really love to celebrate with you.”
9. No response just before the RSVP date.
What you wish you could say: “Do you know how much anxiety this is causing me?”
What you say instead: “The RSVP date is coming up for our wedding and I’d love to know if you can make it!”
10. No response after the RSVP date.
What you wish you could say: “RSVP literally means PLEASE RESPOND.”
What you say instead: “Just wanting to confirm whether you can make it to the wedding? We’re about to send final numbers to our caterer.”