Is it ok to invite people to the ceremony and not to the reception or vice versa?
According to wedding etiquette this is a no go. If in doubt about any decision, consider how it would make you feel if you were left out of either.
Can I invite people to my hen’s night that aren’t invited to the wedding?
This is generally not a good idea as it can send the message that they are great to party with but don’t make the cut for the main event. If number restrictions really mean they can’t be at both, just make it clear that you love their company and want to celebrate with them but have a limited guest list due to the cost.
Have a chat about what could be bothering her – is she feeling overloaded with wedding commitments, not a fan of DIY or just extremely busy in her own life? When you understand the issue you can work out how to solve it. Enlist the help of others on tasks, consider mutually convenient times for commitments or agree to release her from the job if it is really too much and she would rather be a guest. Being respectful with a no hard feelings approach will keep your wedding party happy.
My parents/in-laws want to invite family I haven’t seen in years and friends we don’t even know to the wedding. How do we stop our guest list from getting out of control?
This is always an interesting one – don’t underestimate how important your wedding is to others. Your parents are proud of you and want everyone who has played a role in your life to be involved in the celebration. If cost is creating the limit, suggest that you would be happy for these people to be invited if your parents/in-laws are willing to pay for them. If you want to keep your wedding small, suggest they host a pre or post wedding event where you can catch up with them.
One of our guests has asked if they can bring their children to the wedding, even though we mentioned on the invitation that it is an adult-only event. What should we say?
“Whilst we love the kids in our friendship/family group, the venue is not suitable for children so it is adults only.” Or, “Unfortunately because of numbers, only children from the family are invited.” Most people will understand when you talk about numbers as very few people have unlimited budgets!
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