Let’s not sugarcoat it – wedding planning can be hard sometimes! You want to look after all of your guests, without forgetting to look after yourselves too. Here are 8 wedding related things you might be worrying about and our tips for crossing them off your list for good.
1. What the weather will be like.
We’ve all been there before an outdoor event – constantly refreshing the forecast and praying to the rain gods for a break in the clouds. Even high winds or extreme heat can throw a curve ball!
How to deal: Have a Plan B organised in case the weather doesn’t cooperate, and photo-friendly umbrellas handy for shade or shelter. If you’ve got your backups sorted, you can switch that radar off and enjoy the lead up to your day.
2. Whether you could’ve found a better alternative.
It’s easy to feel that pang of regret when you see another wedding idea you love after you’ve signed on the dotted line. Buyer’s remorse can kick in at any time – but is it real?
How to deal: There are so many amazing ideas out there, if you waited until you’d seen them all, you’d never walk down the aisle! There will always be other options, but be confident in your decisions – you wouldn’t have given the go ahead if you weren’t sure it was the right choice.
3. Having an uneven bridal party.
Many brides worry their photos will look lopsided if one partner has more or less people in their wedding party. This can lead to excluding or adding someone purely to ‘even things out’.
How to deal: It truly doesn’t matter how many bridesmaids and groomsmen you have – just ask who you would each like to have by your side! Your photographer will be used to working with groups of all different sizes and have plenty of ideas for beautiful portraits, whatever your numbers.
4. Whether everyone is going to get along.
No wonder the seating plan is often considered one of the biggest wedding challenges – maintaining a delicate balance (and safe distance) between guests can sometimes be a tricky business!
How to deal: Put in place the best plan you can for your crowd and try not to get caught up in any drama – one great option is to assign tables but not seats, so your guests can choose their own places.
5. Whether your guests will find the reception boring.
We don’t go to too many six-hour dinners, so it can be tempting to plan your soirée to within an inch of its life, organising wall-to-wall activities for your guests!
How to deal: Between the meal, speeches, dancing and any extras like lawn games or a photo booth, there’s usually plenty to keep guests entertained. Don’t forget that many will be looking forward to catching up with family and friends, so plan what you know you and your guests will enjoy, and don’t worry about trying to fill every minute.
6. Whether you’ve forgotten to organise something.
With so many details to keep track of, those random bouts of anxiety can kick in at any time (usually midnight!). Have I missed something?
How to deal: A detailed checklist is a sanity saver – whenever you start to feel stressed, refer back to it and remind yourself you’ve got it covered! And don’t forget your suppliers, partner and loved ones are there to help make sure everything is in place.
7. What people will be wearing.
For some brides, this is their ultimate fear: one of their guests upstaging them in a white outfit of their own. Or, you know, Uncle Ben turning up in shorts to your elegant cocktail party. Whether it’s black tie or beach chic, you want to make sure everyone is on the same page when deciding what to wear.
How to deal: Include a dress code on your invitations, and then let go of what’s beyond your control. Everyone is there to celebrate with you and your partner, and no outfit can distract from that!
8. How everything is going to look on the day.
It can be a little nerve-racking only getting to see the final product on the day of the wedding, especially for details like your flowers, cake or hair and makeup.
How to deal: Do trials where you can – who doesn’t love a good cake tasting? And remind yourself that you booked all of your suppliers for a reason. Trust them to deliver the beautiful work you fell in love with when you first looked through their portfolio.