Finally! The last wedding invitation has been posted – now you can sit back and watch the RSVPs roll in…right?
For many couples, confirming the guest list is the most difficult part of wedding planning, whether it’s chasing up replies or answering those not-so-easy questions. But don’t worry, we’ve got you covered! Here are the nine most common RSVP hiccups and how to handle them.
1. “I told [Family Member] I can come, they were supposed to let you know!”
What to say: “I didn’t get the message, sorry! It’s great you can make it, can you just let me know how many are coming and if there’s any dietary requirements?”
2. “We’ll be there!” Delivered by text, phone call, over lunch or as a passing comment – anything but the post paid RSVP card you sent out.
What to say: “That’s great! Can I just confirm who will be coming and if you have any dietary requirements?”
3. “When are you sending the invitations?” or “I can’t wait to see you walk down the aisle!” (When they’re not on the guest list.)
What to say: “I’m so sorry, but with a limited budget we haven’t been able to invite everyone we would like to.”
4. “[Guest 2] can’t attend, but I’ll bring someone else.”
What to say: “I’m so glad you can make it! We actually have a waiting list of people we’d love to invite, so we won’t be able to add your guest at this stage. I’ll let you know if we have a space open up – either way, we’ll definitely seat you with someone you know.”
5. “Can I bring a friend? I’m worried I won’t know anyone!”
What to say: “Unfortunately we’re unable to accommodate a plus one due to number restrictions, but don’t worry, [Guest 1 & 2 that they know] will be there! We can’t wait to see you at the wedding.”
If you create a rule for plus ones when drafting your guest list, it can help save on questions later. Something like, “We’ll include a plus one for guests with long term partners and people who wouldn’t really know anyone else.”
6. “I’ll be there, and so will [New Partner / Random Stranger].”
What to say: “Unfortunately due to number restrictions we aren’t able to have plus ones, but we can’t wait to see you at the wedding! It means so much to have you there.”
7. “Can I bring my kids?” (When their names weren’t on the invitation.)
What to say: “Unfortunately we’re not able to have all of our guests’ children come along with our limited budget/space. We understand if you can’t make it, but we’d love for you to be there.”
Including a small note on the bottom of your invitation to let guests know you’re planning an adults only wedding can help avoid any confusion.
8. No response – just before the RSVP date.
What to say: “Hi, the RSVP date is coming up for our wedding and I’d love to know if you can make it! We just need to confirm our catering numbers with the venue.”
9. No response – after the RSVP date.
What to say (after pouring yourself a glass of wine): “Hi I’m just calling to confirm whether you can make it to the wedding? We’d love to have you there!”
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